Relationships, Business and Networking – A Delicate Balance

Today, as I opened my Skype window to “check in with my Skype buddies” and see what has been happening over the weekend, I found this message waiting for me.

“Hi Carol, I am from website design and development company based in India. As you arrange public conference so you must interacted with the people of same field. I am looking for business opportunities, can I get references from you.”

My response was:I’m sorry I am not able to provide any references for anyone that I have not done work with.You see, I’m a networking coach and I do believe in helping others achieve their goals but before any business is referred to anyone, a relationship must be built.You must get to know, like and trust the person you are referring and you must also be willing to take care of the person you are making that referral to.

One of the reasons why I opened this Skype Room was to give people the opportunity to interact with one another, to learn more about each other, personally and professionally.Learn how the other person does their work, find out what their work ethics are and generally get to know one another.

My network is important to me- I will not jeopardize the relationships I built my referring someone to any of them without knowing (1) if my network contact even needs their service (2) would be willing to talk with a new vendor (3) or is in the position of being able to pay for the services that are being offered.On the other hand, for the vendor that is referred, I want to know that they are ethical, going to do what they say they are going to do, when they say they are going to do it and not be pushy with my network.The only way I can make sure that happens is to take TIME to get to know the people I am referring.Nothing should be rushed; it’s not a “nice to meet you and now buy from me” situation.That’s no better than running around a networking event just handing out your business cards and saying buy from me.I just won’t do that and I won’t apologize to anyone for not doing that.

I would be totally out of line to refer a new vendor to anyone in my network just because the new vendor told me they want more business.You know, the whole world wants more business.Networking is a tremendous way to get new business, but you do need to know the proper way to do that.Networking is work- you have to “work” at it – the rewards often are tremendous, but it does take time.Just because you want something, does that mean you are going to get it?Of course not, work at developing those relationships.You may be pleasantly surprised how much you receive by doing this but don’t be alarmed at the amount of time you have to spend networking to get these results.It’s not instantaneous gratification!A good point to remember is that what is most important to YOU, may be of no importance at all to THEM – the tune you should be listening to is WIIFT (what’s in it for THEM) not WIIFY (what’s in it forYOU).

“Thanks Carol, I will try my level best to become a member of your network and you will certainly get to know more about me if you look at this website www.xxx.xxxx”Apparently my message wasn’t quite clear enough, because this new person wants to send me to their website to learn more about them.What happens at the website is that I find out about the business, but what does that tell me about the person?People do business with people, not businesses.That’s why it is important to make sure people understand you and how you work – how you take care of your clients, what makes you stand out from the competition?Why should I do business with you?How are you going to solve my problem(s)?

“CanI join your public chat?”Yes, you may join my public chat and yes, I would like to get to know more about you.Just remember, it takes time – share some tips, chat with the members of the chat room and get to know them.It’s ok to share your website on promo day (read the blue guidelines to find out what days that is permitted) but generally participate in conversations!I welcome anyone to come and join in the conversations in the Skype Room – you can find it very easily at http://www.runlancaster.com/skype-room/networking or you may request to connect with me via Skype and I can manually add you into the room.

Please do yourself a favor and don’t ask someone you just meet to refer business to you.Take the time to build the relationship – it will be much better for both of you to know the type of relationship you are part of – knowing that the other person is looking out for your best interest as well as for the referring party’s best interest.

“When do I get to talk about me – doesn’t the person I’m meeting want to know what I do?”I just read a blog post from Michael Port, who has an audio that tells you better than I can how to do this.Listen to it here:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/blog/post/PLNK2S8CRTN2SI5HF

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